Last night in a training session someone asked why dogs had to heel on the left. John explained that it was because your pistol was on the right, to protect you from highwaymen.
The point of the story is that today’s pet families do not need the same behaviors as they did 100 years ago. Even 30 years ago.
Today, pets need to be part of the family.
Building a Bond Beyond Commands
When we think of training a pet, most of us imagine sit-stay-come routines or fixing a “problem.” But what if we flipped the script? What if training wasn’t just about obedience — but about teaching your dog how to be the kind of friend you love to be around?
Today, we want dogs to enjoy holidays. We want dogs to invite in our friends. We want to give dog’s their best life.
More Than Manners: It’s About Relationship
At its best, training helps your dog learn how to live peacefully with you — like any good roommate or best friend. That means:
Understanding boundaries
Communicating clearly
Respecting space
Sharing fun, not frustration
Think of it this way: You don’t train your friends — but you do guide your kids, communicate with your partner, and teach your dog how to navigate life with you.
🐶 What “Friend-Like” Behavior Looks Like
Here’s what dogs learn when we train them like friends, not robots:
Listening when you ask for space or quiet
Checking in with you in new places
Waiting calmly instead of jumping, barking, or pawing
Trusting you during stressful situations like vet visits
Playing kindly with people and other pets
Being part of the family, not just a pet on the sidelines
💡 How to Train for Connection
Use Positive Reinforcement
Reward what you want to see — calm sitting, gentle greetings, checking in. Food, praise, or toys all work. This builds trust and boosts confidence.Be Consistent and Fair
Like any good friendship, rules should be clear and consistent. If “no jumping” is a rule, it should always be a rule — not just sometimes.Train in Real Life, Not Just in Class
Practice good behavior in your living room, on walks, at the café. Real-life training teaches your dog how to live with you, not just how to perform.Add Enrichment and Play
Friends play! Training should include fun — games, puzzles, and playtime strengthen your bond. A mentally tired dog is a happy, relaxed companion.Watch for Emotional Needs
Just like friends need emotional support, so do dogs. Help them feel safe, especially during storms, vet visits, or new environments. Offer calm encouragement and a comforting routine.
💬 Final Thought
When we train dogs to behave like a friend, we build trust, joy, and lifelong connection. It’s not about control — it’s about communication, respect, and love.